Continuation of politics girl. He also threatens to “break every bone in my body” if I don’t shut up and has often, even before I started disagreeing over politics, hit me because I was disobedient or annoying or wouldn’t stop talking or because he was in a bad mood and I tried to talk to him or just because he felt like it. My current solution is to never cry or seem scared and to move away if he gets too close (he’s fat & can’t run), but it doesn’t seem like enough. I’m getting scared.

I would like to start by saying that I understand completely, me and my father disagree completely when it comes to politics, which has led to big fights between us.

The problem here is that he is your father and I can’t just tell you to avoid him or something you know? You live in the same house he does and that makes it difficult. 

Again, I know how you feel, me and my father disagree and I like to be very outspoken with my beliefs. I understand your father talks about politics a lot and you don’t agree with them, but you should also understand that he has power over you, he is bigger and well, he is your father.

I would advice you to not talk about politics with him, and when he is talking just stay quiet, don’t agree or disagree. I’m saying this because you won’t win anything fighting and unfortunately you could lose a lot, and we don’t want that. I know it’s hard to just stay quiet, but it’s the best thing you can do as long as you are living under his rooftop. 

Beliefs are important, don’t change what them because he wants to, but don’t put in risk your safety because of them. Your safety is first, and as soon as you move out and be independent, you can call him on the phone and tell him everything you believe in. Your independence takes all the power from him over you, so you would have nothing to lose.

I wish I could give you a better solution but right now I don’t think there is a better one. I hope I helped. Remember we are all here for you, and if the violence grows, please talk to an adult, because he doesn’t have the right to hit you or hurt you, even if he is your father.

~8

It’s possible he does, Anon. You never know.  My advice is to tell him how you feel, or maybe ask him.  But all in all, communication is the key.  

And if things don’t go how you want, well you either keep trying or you move on and find someone worthy of you.  

But it’ll all work out in the end.

Good luck!
~B 

So sorry for the late response, anon!  I’m not good with relationship advice, but from what I’ve heard, it’s perfectly okay and normal to love more than one person.  And sometimes, it can be platonic love that you think is romantic-  basically what you have to do is choose for yourself so you can be happy.  Yes, others matter, but you have to keep yourself in mind and just go with whoever can and will make you the happiest.

Good luck!

~B

When becoming a vegetarian, you have to remember to eat food that will provide the same nutrients that meat did. Foods that are high in protein are important. Here’s a more detailed Pro/Con list

http://www.sixwise.com/newsletters/2008/september/17/the-pros-and-cons-of-being-a-vegetarian.htm

I hope this helps you, dear. Best of luck to you.

- Iz

I’m sorry, hon. I get that feeling too. It’s anxiety, and it sucks. The most important thing to remember is that your friends like you. It may not seem that way, but they really do. 

- Iz

Tell him how you feel. I know. It’s hard to do, and it can be scary. But he needs to know how you feel, and the fact you want to know where the two of you stand, especially with those other girls. Best of luck, and a thousand apologies for the late reply.
- Iz

Terribly sorry, anon, both for your problem and for this very late response.

Anyway, I know a lot of people who are alone at this homecoming time of year, myself included.  But I’ve always heard from people that going to dances is much more fun if you go without a date and with a group of friends.  And I’m sure that you’d rather remember homecoming as a fun time, full of laughs, and not a-quite-possibly-maybe-or-maybe-not awkward time with a date….  But hey, if there’s a person you like- take a deep breath and just ask!

Or a guy/girl friend that you can take, that is also an option!

Good luck,

~B

Oh I am right there with you, my friend. 

The whole college process is pretty freaking terrifying. I mean, how the heck are we supposed to know what we want to do with the rest of our lives at around age 18?

But see, that’s the thing with college: it’s meant for us to take that time to discover our place in the world. There is absolutely nothing wrong with things being unclear now. Going in as an undeclared major is totally fine! College students on average change their major three to four times during their time studying. So even the people around you who seem to know what they want to do might have a change of heart along the way. 

As for the schools themselves, that’s gonna take some work. You gotta go online and research colleges, maybe plan some visits to some nearby. Be honest with yourself and ask if this is the place you want to be the next four years. 

Don’t let all this frighten you. Instead, embrace and learn from it. You have so much more potential than you think you do. And remember you can always come talk to us about anything else troubling you! Good luck in your college search!

- J

Oh sweetie, I’m sorry to hear. I know things can get stressful, and telling someone can seem like the worst possible thing to do. You don’t need to tell someONE. instead, how bout keeping a journal? it can be the one person, or well, thing you trust.

Also, try and throw away all and any form of razor or anything you use, or could use to cut yourself. It will be hard to just stop cutting, so throwing it all away is your best bet if you want to not cut. 

as for eating, do eat everyday. don’t starve yourself, or overeat. it just is not good for your body. eat small, healthy snacks, in between meals if you still get hungry. It may help if you avoid going to the kitchen when you are depressed, or simply bored. of course, if you are depressed, a bit of chocolate or ice cream always helps, just not too much.

I hope this helps you. and I hope things get a bit better.

~Fleur

Thanks! I’m glad people are really enjoying it! -H